stealing a moment: is three a crowd?

I have been up the ass busy this past week and when i say week i mean from tuesday to tuesday. So much has happened since i wrote last, but none of it would interest you. Just big moments at work, saw a couple of apartments blah blah blah.

But heres something interesting for all of you. Something a little private that i wanted to share my thoughts on. Sex.... not just any kind of sex.... a threesome.

Okay now i know that this may seem like something i should be writing to play boy about but i think i can have an adult discussion about such things. A friend of mine is planing on having a threesome.... 2 girls 1 guy.... for the purposes of her curiousity and the fact that her BF has begged her to do this since the beggining of their relationship, which was a while ago ill tell you that!

So heres the questions that we danced around last night while we discussed her plans... will doing this ruin her relationship with her man? will it make her jelous? will it be weird? is she doing this for him or for herself?

Now ive seen porn and i know how people think it goes down,  but im pretty sure it doesnt go the  way X-Tube says it does.  When i first started having sex in general it was nothing like the movies, so i could only believe that a threesome wouldnt go down the same way either.

Now in terms of ruining her relationship, i think it will have a very strong effect on it either way. Not sure if it will be negative or positive but there will be a definate after taste to that (that pun was totally intended HA)

I mean can anyone imagine watching their man have sex with another woman right in front of them. Okay and lets say that the ground rules are set, and she tells her man that he cant penetrate the other woman, that doesnt mean that she wont be effected by having someone else join in on something that is as intimate as their naked time together. When two people who love eachother have sex, they are lost in it. When you bring some stranger into that moment... welll you will be at a hightened point of thinking wont you? so could you loose yourself enough in the moment to enjoy the experience? i say no.

 im sure thats what you would hope to do, i bet thats even what in your mind you think you will do, but when some stranger is watching you and your mate undress... well... i dunno how relaxed anyone would be.

Also, will she be hotter  than you? i mean do you pick someone your man is attracted to? or do you find some average type girl because lets face it, if shes some sexy victoria secret angel look alike, your  going to be watching your mate the whole time. Wondering what he's thinking. which is in most male cases id bet "holy shit this is hot." and nothing more.

And lastly where do you find such a willing third party? craigslist? ew... adult friend finder perhaps? ew ew ew. Lets face it, as women if we were even thinking about taking such a risk with our relationship in the name of sexual curiousity, we'd want a classy slut wouldnt we?

What are your thoughts guys? do you think this type of thing is disgusting? or like me do you have the " do what you want but its probably a bad idea" attitude? do you guys know anyone whose gone through with it? was it a disaster?